The Art of Loving

Through 12 practical learning modules including videos and some hands-on exercises, you and your partner can use today and forever, you can take your relationship in an entirely new and exciting direction. 
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What will I learn?


  • 12 Intensive Video Sessions
  • Practical Exercises
  • 12 Downloadable Worksheets
  • 3+ Hours of Content
  • Learn why loving is an art to be mastered.
  • Begin to understand what drives your  thinking, feelings, and expectations of your partner.
  • Own your individual contribution to relationship struggles and pain.
  • Discover why your relationship is actually your best medicine to heal the pain of your childhood.
  • Discover previously ignored aspects of each other’s inner emotional landscape.
  • Learn tools to effectively handle conflict.
  • Create mutual understanding and new appreciation of each one’s individual struggles.
  • Learn ways to connect more deeply as a couple than ever before.
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What can we expect?

We learn how to uncover the unconscious thought patterns we’ve long ago outgrown through really listening to each other.  In doing this, we begin to step into a mysterious new world of aliveness and ‘essence’. The world every one of us longs for – whether we know it or not.

The Art of Loving

Course Preview

No-one gives you a manual for building a successful and lasting romantic relationship. It’s hard to make it work when we’re bogged down by ‘adulting’, trying to parent, and in finding ourselves repeating the same tired old patterns. This is when society tells us our relationship has run its course. I intentionally designed my Art of Loving course to show you that it hasn’t.

Curious to know what you are signing up for?
Here are a few previews

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Session 1:

In our first session, we will learn why loving is an art to be mastered. This session will give you a brief overview of what you can expect for the rest of the course.
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Session 2:
A Theory of Love

We work through the phases any long-term romantic relationship goes through and I'll introduce you to the concept of the pain-cycle and conscious relationship. 
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Session 3:
The 4 Pillars of Change

If we want change to happen, there are a few things that are not negotiable: accountability, self-reflection, commitment to personal change and safety.
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Session 4:
The Encounter

Make an intentional visit to the ‘world’ of your partner. I will demonstrate this ritual by working with an actual couple and show you how to develop this as a skill.

The Art of Loving

Register and enroll in The Art of Loving Online Series for a once-off fee of R3150. This will give you instant access to privately, and in your own time, work through 12 online sessions, carefully put together, to provide you with over 3 hours of video content, practical exercises and worksheets. Below, you will find the course structure and session topics. Register for free to preview the first session.

I am looking forward to welcome you to The Art of Loving.

Session Topics

Couples on The Art of Loving 

"The Art of Loving came to us late on a Friday evening after a day, actually a week of severe fighting. We already decided it is better to see someone to help negotiate a divorce on that Friday evening. I found the Art of Loving in my search for a Mediator. In desperation and curiosity, I stepped into the Art. On Sunday, my husband and I reconsidered our position. But more than that, we were open to the possibility of seeing things differently. Thank you, Louis – The Art of Loving saved our marriage."
Powerful, real, deep, touching, practical. I never thought Love could be so complicated but yet so simple. Louis is truly the Relationship Whisperer.
"After listening to Louis on Lotus Fm and reading his article on Pre-marriage counseling, we enrolled in the Art of loving to prepare ourselves for the marriage journey ahead. We feel so blessed to be part of the few who know how to write our own beautiful love story—looking forward to a new course by Louis."
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Are you ready to start your journey?

Learn to take responsibility of your own unconscious behaviours by taking the first step to consciously develop relationship intelligence, together.  You CAN reconnect, remember why you fell in love, and get back to a place where being together is fun. You can start right now.

Louis Venter

For the last fourteen years, I have been practicing as a marriage counselor and therapist, and it has been my greatest joy to see countless marriages and “impossible” situations restored to childlike wholeness.

Clinical Imago Therapist (Imago International)
Enneagram Therapist (Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition)
Spiritual Director (Centre for Spirituality; University of Pretoria)
MTh – Theology and Pastoral care (University of Pretoria)

Patrick Jones - Course author
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